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By Kim Blakely
Remember that baby I wanted for so long? Well, she just turned 1. I know! I canāt believe it either.
I went to the doctorās office a couple of weeks ago (Iāve been feeling kind of crummy for a couple of months now, but it seems maybe Iām just super-fatigued.), and they made me jump on the scales. Itās not a big deal, but cāmon ā who wants that kind of trouble? This isnāt something they had done in the past so I jokingly protested about it.
āI just had a baby!ā I said. Then I realized that itās been quite a while since I gave birth. Iāve lost the weight, but Iāve also lost track of the time.
It seems like it was just a few weeks ago that I saw her sweet face and heard that lusty cry for the first time.
Moxie is a vibrant, passionate baby girl.
She knows what she wants and she goes after it, even if it happens to be at the top of the stairs. Yep, she only started crawling about a month ago and now sheās pulling up on the coffee table and climbing all the way to the top of the stairs, a nervous mama or daddy scooting up each step right behind her all the way to make sure she doesnāt tumble.
Sheās reserved and has been known to scare away restaurant waiters with her level looks. But sheās also very social, so it stands to reason that her first words ā mastered right after her birthday ā were hi and bye. She can identify eyes, noses, mouths, ears and belly buttons in her books. She can point to her hand when you ask where it is and she does an impressive Rockette-like kick when you ask her to identify her toes.
Her laughs are as loud as her cries and no one makes her giggle and shriek as much as Mojo. Her big brother delights and infuriates her, which is, I suppose just as it should be.
Maybe youāll recall that one of the reasons I wanted this baby so badly was so that Mojo wouldnāt be alone. I think heās mostly glad sheās around. He talks to her and about her and he plays with her, sometimes giving her way more attention than she really wants.
But if thereās a downside to life right now, itās that I feel like he gets the shaft far more often than I would like.
Am I the only mom of two who finds herself chastising one more than the other?
I donāt know if heās acting out because he wants more attention, whether heās acting out because heās 5 and is a little full of his burgeoning sense of independence or whether heās bored by summer vacation or whether itās all of the above or if I just simply lack the patience to cope.
Itās hard, though. I donāt like it, but Iāve turned into a yeller. I yell because nothing else seems to get through. I get beyond frustrated when he repeats whatever his flavor of the moment over and over or until he tortures his previously content sister until she can only be comforted by my stopping what Iām doing and picking her up ⦠and after asking nicely, then firmly and then with a warning for him to stop, finally I just burst.
He starts kindergarten in a few months and Iām sadder than sad that we wonāt be together every day anymore. Itās the end of an era and I donāt want to see it go out this way. I want to make this better because I know our relationship will only become more challenging ā that it will be tested in new and more complex ways ā as he gets older.
Iām sure weāll work through it, and itās not as bad as all that. Not as bad as Iāve made it sound here, Iām sure.
Thereās still plenty of games and good times around here. Itās just a dark spot in a field of light.
I want my babies to be friends. And though I know the difference between parent and friend, I want to be their friend, too.
Time is flying by too fast to miss out on all the fun.
Kim Blakely is mom to baby girl āMoxieā and 5-year-old āMojoā. Sheās also a freelance writer who works from home.Ā To read previous All Akimbo posts, click here!

Mojo has just entered the world of playdates without his mama. And a couple of his friends have started hanging around at our house without their mamas, too.
I try to provide healthy snacks, but one rejects my offers and asks (and not so gently) for other options.















