Revive Medical Spa has the remedy mamas need

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There’s one main reason why we mama types don’t go to the spa as often as we need to. It all comes down to the old “wants versus needs” argument. You probably know it well because we all use it on our kids. As in, “No, you don’t NEED a new video game. You just WANT one. There’s a difference.”

Spa-Girl-Graphic1Women, especially busy moms, tend to use that same argument internally and end up talking ourselves out of the “me time” we so desperately need. We asked a few busy moms to finish the sentences below. Here’s what they NEED most in order to feel like they’re capable of being the best mom and/or wife they can be.

If any of these statements sound familiar, you should think about booking a little time at Revive Medical Spa. (Local moms recently voted for Revive as Washington County’s “BEST SPA” in the Mom’s Choice Business Awards.) For so many women and mothers, it’s not just a “want.” Taking better care of ourselves is what we need to do so we’re capable of taking care of our kids, husbands, parents and so many others. We say, “Banish the guilt. Book the appointment. Because you need it.”

“After a really busy week, what I need most is… some time by myself so I can hear myself think.”

Remedy: One of the nicest things about a spa appointment is the peace and quiet. When you’re at the spa, you won’t hear “Mama, I need a juicebox.” And you won’t have to hear the Dora the Explorer theme song over and over again. It’s just… quiet… and soothing… and it gives your mommy brain some much-needed time to slow down and regroup.

All spa appointments are pretty quiet (unless you just want to chat) because spa technicians understand that part of why you’re there is to relax your body AND mind.

“My kids are little and they climb all over me which means my shoulders and back feel….sore, with a few knots, but mostly just really tired.”

Remedy: Oh girl. You need a massage. And we mean a real massage… not that lame excuse for a massage that your husband gives you when he rubs your shoulders with one massage shouldershand while the other hand operates the TV remote. That doesn’t count.

The massage therapists at Revive Medical Spa will quickly feel like miracle workers. They instinctively know where you’re tense and how to massage your muscles into a deeper state of relaxation. Under the hands of an expert, you’ll float in this wonderful state of “not quite awake and not quite asleep,” where everything feels light and floaty and so goooood. If you haven’t felt that way in a while, you’re overdue. Even mamas need someone to help take care of them now and then.

“I’m pregnant and I feel like my body is being pulled and stretched in a million different ways. I wish… that I could feel lighter and more comfortable in my own skin.”

Remedy: We have SO been there and done that. Even for those of us who love being pregnant and the amazing changes that come with it, let’s face it. There are some not-so-comfortable parts of growing another human inside your body. Your hip bones move around. Things pop and stretch. There are some pretty intense muscle cramps from time to time. And we haven’t even mentioned the heavy fatigue that most pregnant women battle.

foot massageWhat you need is a pregnancy massage. Did you know that you can still get one even when your belly is poking out a mile in front of you? Yes, you can. And you should because it will ease those sore muscles and soothe those tired, swollen feet. And always remember that a relaxed mama is one of the best things you can be for the baby who’s bumping around inside your belly.

Revive Medical Spa offers pregnancy massages using pillows to get you into the most comfy positions for massage and to take the weight off your belly.

“Most of the time, I feel like a mom machine. Sometimes I need to feel like… a flirty wife again who looks young and energized and not just old and tired.”

Remedy: Who among us has not felt this way? The role of motherhood is so big that sometimes the woman we used to be gets swallowed up by all the demands of raising kids and running a household.

Many of us feel — at least mentally — like we’re a young twenty-something. So it can be depressing to look in the mirror and see skin that looks a few decades older than we feel.

The remedy is to pay some time and attention to your skin. It doesn’t automatically glow the way it used to. Start with a facial. And talk to your dermatologist about a peel or a microdermabrasion treatment. There’s also a “micro-facial” which combines the benefits of a facial with that of microdermabrasian. (You can even have them do your neck and chest for an extra twenty dollars. SO worth it.)

While you’re at it, have some waxing done or get a professional airbrushed tan. Then wear something you love and go out with your husband while somebody else watches the kids. It’s much easier to feel like somebody’s “date” when you feel pretty and you’re not wearing something with spit-up on it. :-)

“I know it sounds vain but some of the normal parts of aging are making me feel lousy about my looks. I need… to either get over it or do something about it already.”

wrinkle foreheadRemedy: Every woman has a different threshold for what she can put up with. For some people, a few age spots and a wrinkle here and there are no biggie. For others, it stays on their mind and makes them continually self-conscious.

If you’re in that second group, you’re living in a time with lots of options on how to deal with those irksome little lines, spots, veins, and even those stray hairs that keep popping up where you don’t want them to.

Revive Medical Spa has merged with Advance Dermatology, headed by Dr. Lance Henry, so now, in addition to all the services listed above, Revive can also do medical cosmetic treatments like Botox, laser resurfacing, cosmetic fillers (like Juvederm), vein treatments, photo rejuvenation and laser hair removal. Click HERE to see a list of all the new medical spa services that Revive now offers.

GET THYSELF TO THE SPA!: When you’re ready to take care of yourself for a change, here’s the contact info for Revive Medical Spa. It’s located at 1444 E. Stearns Street in Fayetteville. Give them a call at 479-695-1634 or click HERE to visit the website.

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Tax-free weekend is August 3rd and 4th

Ladies, prepare to shop! Because tax-free weekend is upon us, and many of us have some back-to-school shopping to get done. I got a LOT of great deals on school clothes and shoes all over NWA last year during the tax-free weekend so I’m looking forward to this year’s event, too.

If good quality shoes are on your shopping list (for the kids or for yourself), be sure to stop by Fleet Feet Sports in Fayetteville on August 3rd and 4th. This locally-owned store is also participating in tax-free weekend. In fact, they’re lowering the cost of shoes that normally retail for $120 down to $100 so that they’ll qualify for the tax-free savings.

thorlo socksAlso, most of their apparel will qualify for the tax-free savings, and so will all of their socks. (And they have AWESOME socks. I’m a big fan of the Thorlo brand that’s sold at Fleet Feet. It’s like wearing a hug on your feet. :-) )

If you’re a running shoe connoisseur, you’ll also be interested to know that Fleet Feet is the ONLY store in Northwest Arkansas that is currently selling the AdiStar Boost shoe. This new shoe from Adidas is designed for people whose feet tend to overpronate (feet tend to roll  inward). This shoe sells for $170, so it’s not a part of the tax-free weekend sale. But if you’re a serious runner or walker, this shoe may be on your wish list. Adidas spent more than five years developing and testing this shoe before its product launch. Here’s a glamour shot of the new AdiStar Boost.

adistar boostHappy shopping this weekend! Hope you all find some amazing deals and enjoy shopping tax-free.

 

Inside His Head: ‘Gym rat’ husband skips out on family too often

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If you’ve ever wondered, “What was he THINKING?!” you’ll love this monthly feature.

Here we go where women fear to tread — Inside His Head. Find out what men are thinking, delivered straight from the “horse’s” mouth.

This month’s question for our anonymous panel of husbands:

Q: It drives me nuts when my husband gets home from work, grabs a snack and says he’s going to “run to the gym”. Meanwhile, there’s dinner to cook and kids to take care of — which I get to do by myself. I would be fine with it a couple of nights a week, but it’s more often than that. I haven’t put my foot down yet, but I know it has to be done. Any advice for getting my point across without it leading to a huge fight?

GRAY: Seems like he’s too busy pumping iron at the gym to recognize he’s not pulling his weight at home and it’s making you resent making a meal and spending time with your children. It appears to be making the situation divisive. And if something this innocent could lead to a “huge” fight then some time together might do you all some good.

To me the solution seems simple: find time to exercise as a family.

Exercise is a great habit to have, but carving out the time to do it regularly can be a real bugger. Making it a family affair can be a great way to teach your kids the importance of staying fit while giving you all an opportunity to share your day with each other. If they’re too young to go on a bike ride or run around the park, there’s a whole host of carriers and strollers perfectly suited for the situation.

Sure, you might be able to talk him into switching a workout or two to the weekend or a morning, but why not join him? Find ways to bring the family together. It’ll be the best exercise any of you can do.

john.thumbnailMAVERICK: Your complaint sounds pretty reasonable. You don’t mind him going to the gym, it’s just his timing that puts the whole family, except for him, in a bind.

The best way to get this across without leading to a huge fight is to address it when A) he’s not “driving you nuts” with his behavior and B) when he’s not focused on getting out the door and hitting the gym.

Assuming he’s not a total gym rat who has to be working out every day, bring the subject up on one of his off days and in the evening when dinner if finished and after the kids are in bed or doing something to keep them occupied. For goodness sake, whatever you do, don’t “put your foot down.” He’ll instantly react badly to that, you’re not his mom and best I can tell he’s not even been told his behavior is causing you grief.

Unless he’s just a jerk, and your question points more to oblivious rather than jerky, he simply doesn’t realize he’s jamming you up with the timing of his workouts. He likely is thinking that by timing his workout between the end of work and dinner he’s getting it done before he can be lured in to simply staying home and hanging out and it leaves his evening free to be with the family.

Let him know you think his gym time is important to his sanity and his health, but you really need him at home to help with his family in that all-important time before dinner. Tell him there’s just too much going on during his gym time and you need some help. Remember, you are both adults. This is a reasonable request, not an ultimatum or a chance for you to vent, bringing up all the times in the past he’s fallen short of your likely unvoiced expectations.

Offer some alternatives, maybe starting dinner earlier while he helps you with that or tends to the kids so he can still get out to the gym at a decent hour afterward.

If his going after dinner all the time isn’t the best solution maybe you two can compromise, with him going to the gym straight after work a few times a week and on those days he becomes responsible for evening duties, like baths or homework or the bedtime routine. Or maybe some of those things you need help with regarding the kids, say homework or household chores can shift till after dinner when he can be the one who tends to them.

You have every reason to expect help and likely a compromise can be arranged. Just don’t minimize his gym time. Don’t couch this like he’s out playing while you slave around the house. It’s important to him.

It’s become an issue, most likely, simply because he’s unaware. And don’t, I repeat don’t, come at him like your his mom. It’ll just make him defensive and make that huge fight you say you are dreading a near certainty.

generichead-1MICHAEL: It’s not a matter of “putting your foot down”.

It sounds like your husbands personal time has edged past an acceptable limit. You need to clearly communicate your annoyance to your husband in a constructive way. He may assume that dinner and kids is your “job”. Clearly it’s not.

We all want our spouse to be healthy, but not at the expense of the rest of the family. Tell him you appreciate him taking care of himself but you need him to cut back and expend some of that energy at home helping you in the evenings. He can always go later at night if necessary after things have settled down.

When you have kids, you have to shift your priorities a bit. That doesn’t mean that you never do anything for yourself, but you do have to compromise a bit to ensure that the entire family can win. It’s time for him to take one for them team.

NWA Calendar of Events: August 2013

First Thursday on the Fayetteville Square

First Thursday FayettevilleFirst Thursday Fayetteville is a monthly event held on the Downtown Fayetteville Square, celebrating original works of art. On the first Thursday of each month, an outdoor art walk, live music, and a charity beer garden take over the Square, while participating galleries and art-related venues offer free access to visual and performing art starting at 5 p.m.

Date: Aug. 1

Time: 5 p.m.

Location: Fayetteville Square

More info: Click here

Back to School First Friday

Using the First Friday Back to School and Bentonville Farmers Market as the festival’s foundation, Downtown Bentonville will host a children’s event that features activities, music and entertainment geared towards children and families ages 1-13 years old. Downtown Bentonville Inc. continues to create and grow its community celebrations throughout the 1,765 acres of downtown. On the first Friday of every month, between March and November, the Bentonville Square is transformed into a huge block party filled with live music, great food and lots of fun for an entire day. Several of our First Friday events have grown so much in popularity that they have become three day to month long festivals!

Date: Aug. 2

Time: Main event 5-9 p.m.

Location: Downtown Bentonville

More info: Click here

Fayetteville Summer Reading Club Finale

Join FPL for lively African music by Afrique Aya during the  Summer Reading Club grand prize drawings. Afrique Aya is a group of dancers and drummers dedicated to sharing the musical traditions of West Africa, which often serve as an important component of storytelling. Through their performances, they also expose children to the culture of West Africa.

Date: Saturday, Aug. 3

Time: 10:30 a.m.

Location: Fayetteville Public Library

More info: Click here

19th Annual Yards and Yards of Yard Sales

Yard sale bargains all around town. Maps will be available so you can find them all! For more information call 800-6EUREKA or visit www.eurekaspringschamber.com.

Date: Aug. 2-3

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Location: Eureka Springs, all over town

More info: Click here

American Diabetes Association of NWA Expo

The American Diabetes Association of Northwest Arkansas’ 6th Annual Diabetes Expo presented by Walmart. This FREE statewide public event welcomes all people with diabetes, those at risk for diabetes, and anyone interested in healthy living to attend. Information will be presented in both English and Spanish. Free Health Screenings; “Ask the Expert” Area; Nutrition & Fitness Demos; ADA Experience; Exhibit Booths & Free Samples. To register, visit: www.diabetes.org/arkansasexpo

Date: Saturday, August 3

Time: 9 a.m. -1 p.m.

Location: NWA Holiday Inn Convention Center, Springdale

More info: Click here or call 479-464-4121

Fayetteville 5K Color Vibe

Date: Aug. 3

Time: 9 a.m.

Location: Washington County Fairgrounds

More info: Click here

115th Annual Tontitown Grape Festival

grape festivalEnjoy carnival rides, different entertainers every night, Italian spaghetti dinners and more! Click here for a schedule of events.

Date: Aug. 6-10

Time: Varies

Location: Tontitown

More info: Click here

Family Event: Come Outside and Play

Families, come have some outdoor fun at FPL! This Saturday morning event will feature Partytime Ponies, sno-cones, and other outside entertainment!

Date: Saturday, Aug. 10

Time: 10:30 a.m. to noon

Location: Fayetteville Public Library

More info: Click here

A Cool Summer Prom Night benefiting the Kendrick Fincher Hydration Foundation

Date: Aug. 10

Time: 6:30-11 p.m.

Location: Fayetteville Town Center

More info: Click here

Yarnell’s Ice Cream Festival

Date: Aug. 10

Time: 7 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Location: Bentonville Square

More info: Click here

Benton County Fair

Date: Aug. 14-18

Time: Varies

Location: Benton County Fairgrounds

More info: Click here

Annual Eureka Springs Family Bluegrass Weekend

Thursday night Watermelon Social, free music in Basin Spring Park (weather permitting) and performances in the Auditorium. For more information visit www.eurekasprings.org.

Date: August 15-17

Time: Varies

Location: Eureka Springs

More info: Click here

Fight Back 5K and Fun Run

fun runThe race will benefit American Cancer Society and help fund groundbreaking research on the causes of cancer and to someday find a cure for cancer. The race will be held at 7:30 am on August 17th in Bentonville. There will be a Fun Run tailored for kids as well as the 5K. Each child will receive a medal for the Fun Run and entry for the Fun Run is only $10. 

Date: Aug. 17

Time: 5K 7:30 a.m., Fun Run 7:45 a.m.

Location: Memorial Park, Bentonville (401 NE Martin Luther King Jr. Parkway)

More info: Online registration is at www.getmeregistered.com/fightback and Facebook page: facebook.com/FightBack5KandFunRun

8th Annual Secchi Day on Beaver Lake

The public is invited to attend the 8th annual Secchi Day on Beaver Lake at Prairie Creek Recreation Area, located just a few miles east of Rogers on Hwy. 12. This family friendly “science day at Beaver Lake” includes hands-on water science and ecology fun for all ages, as well as snacks, lunch and ice cream. 

Date: Aug. 17

Time: 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Location: Prairie Creek Recreation Area, 9300 N. Park Road, Rogers (Highway 12)

More info: Visit bwdh2o.org, check out the event on the District’s Facebook page, or call Amy Wilson, Director of Public Affairs for Beaver Water District, at 479-717-3807.

President Clinton’s Birthday Celebration

The Clinton House Museum will host a birthday party for President Bill Clinton’s 67th birthday on Saturday, August 17th. The former home of the Clintons will offer free admission and extended hours in honor of the celebration on Saturday and Monday. Refreshments will include President Clinton’s favorite snacks: Moon Pies, peanuts, RC Cola, and of course–birthday cake. Stop by and sign Bill’s birthday card and share favorite President Clinton stories!

Date: Saturday, Aug. 17

Time: All day, 8:30-4:30

Location: The Clinton House Museum, 930 W. Clinton Drive, Fayetteville

More info: Click here

Washington County Fair

Date: Aug. 27-31

Time: Varies

Location: Washington County Fairgrounds, Fayetteville

More info: Click here

Frisco Festival

FriscoFestLogo2013_Logo_Large Graphic BDate: Aug. 23-24

Time: Varies

Location: Downtown Rogers

More info: Click here

Run for a Child 10k, 5k and 1-mile Superhero Fun Run/Walk (Labor Day weekend)

Date: Sept. 2

Time: Varies by event

Location: Pinnacle Hills Promenade

More info: Click here

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Good Gossip: Guilt-free celebrity news

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Love a little gossip but hate to do something you teach your kids not to do? Yep, we get it. That’s why we only spread around the “Good Gossip,” — celebrity news minus any mean stuff. So have as much as you want because this “dish” is all guilt-free.

As always, this feature is sponsored by Great Day Farms, a national brand based right here in NWA. Look for their products at the Walmart Supercenter. Click HERE to like them and get coupons on their Facebook page.

halle berry2Halle Berry is married! The actress wed her actor fiance, Olivier Martinez, in a small ceremony in France on July 13th. Halle and Olivier met in 2010 on a movie set. They’re expecting their first child together this fall, a boy, who will join big sister Nahla. Halle arrived at the ceremony (attended by 60 family members and close friends) in a vintage car decorated with bridal tulle. Nahla wore a wreath of flowers in her hair. After the ceremony, the couple had a garden dinner party and the evening ended with a fireworks display.

jimmy kimmelWedding bells also rang here in the U .S. for late-night comedian Jimmy Kimmel, who married Molly McNearny, a co-head writer on his talk show, Jimmy Kimmel Live. Known for his love of a good prank, Jimmy was surprised to find that his bride was the one playing tricks on their wedding day. She asked their friend actress Gabourey Sidibe to walk down the aisle in a wedding dress to start off the ceremony. Guests said it was hysterical. Some of the celeb guests at the wedding included Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux, Matt Damon, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, and Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi.

jennymccarthyJenny McCarthy will join the panel on The View on September 9th. (Elisabeth Hasselback and Joy Behar are leaving the show.) McCarthy has also recently started dating a fellow celeb, Donnie Wahlberg from boy band New Kids on the Block.

shannon millerAfter having treatment for a rare form of ovarian cancer, Olympic gymnast Shannon Miller has had a miracle baby girl. Her doctors discovered her cancer when she went in for a checkup before trying for a second child. (She and her husband have a 3-year-old son.) One year after an intense round of chemo, the couple was allowed to begin trying for another baby and assumed they’d need to use the eggs that doctors had preserved for Shannon before her chemo. But she got pregnant right away on her own. Their daughter, Sterling Diane Falconetti, was born June 25th. Shannon said, “Even when I won five medals in 1992, I was back in the gym the next day. I didn’t stop and enjoy things along the way. I’ve started to do that much more. Now I’m grateful for each day.”

harry connick jr2Even super hot, super talented, super famous men have a thing for ugly furniture. People magazine recently featured Harry Connick Jr.‘s beautiful home in Connecticut. Harry says he and his wife, Jill Goodacre, and their three daughters really like to hang out at home. Their location in Connecticut allows them to “just live our lives and not really deal with the industry,” he said. His wife did the interior design (check out the magazine to see the photos) but Harry said he still misses one piece of furniture. “I used to have a La-Z-Boy in here until my wife made me move it out. It had a New Orleans Saints logo on it and a cup holder. I think Jill got it for me as a joke but I thought it was the greatest thing I’d ever seen.”

selena gomezAnd even super popular singers and Disney stars get a little starstruck sometimes. Selena Gomez said she recently met Bradley Cooper. “…I don’t even remember what I said — that’s how embarrassed I was. I wanted to say he was a great actor, but he blinded me with his eyes.” (Totally understandable, Selena. We’ve seen his eyes on screen and can only imagine how awesome they are in person.)

Source: People magazine July 29, 2013 edition

Good Gossip is sponsored by CCF Brands, a Northwest Arkansas company which makes Great Day All Natural Eggs. These eggs are produced by happy hens who are fed premium vegetarian diets with no animal fats, animal by-products, or antibiotics. Great Day Farms also offers hard-boiled eggs, which you can find in the deli section of the Walmart Supercenter. (Love the hard-boiled eggs because they’re peeled and ready to eat! Perfect in salads.)

 

Mealtime Mama: Who’s up for some French Cake Bon Bons?

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You know how we moms love to put our feet up and eat bon bons? No? Well, we think it would be nice every now and then!

Below is a Bon Bon recipe from a friend’s awesome mother, Carrie Chastain, who also happens to be a great cook. This is an easy recipe, which makes it even better.

French Cake Bon Bons

  • choc cake mixOne cake mix (any flavor)*
  • One container of frosting (compatible to the cake mix chosen)
  • Almond bark (white, chocolate or butterscotch)

Directions:

Bake cake in a 9 X 13 pan, according to box instructions. When the cake is cool, place it in a large bowl and crumble.

Work the frosting mix into the crumbled cake until you have the mix completely worked together.

Make small balls about the size of a meatball, spray cookie sheets with Pam or similar product and place the small balls on the sheet and freeze.

After frozen, dip in the almond bark and enjoy! (You may put these in a container and freeze indefinitely; it only takes a few minutes to thaw them.)

*Some options for cakes and frosting: German Chocolate and coconut pecan frosting; strawberry cake and frosting; or spice cake and cream cheese frosting, dipped in butterscotch bark.

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On Your Mind: About Asperger’s Syndrome

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Dear Tom,

I’ve been reading a lot about Asperger’s Syndrome lately, and my son has many of the characteristics associated with this condition. He is 8 years old and has never been diagnosed. Isn’t this something our pediatrician would have already caught? What type of doctor typically diagnoses someone with Asperger’s and how should I proceed, if I think he might have this condition? Is there any treatment available for Asperger’s Syndrome?

Dear Mom,

Asperger’s syndrome, also called Asperger’sdisorder, is part of the continuum of pervasive developmental disorders (PDD). PDDs are a group of conditions that involve delays in the development of basic skills, most notably the ability to socialize with others, to communicate, and to use imagination. PDDs include the diagnoses of Autism and the milder form, Asperger’s syndrome

While Asperger’s syndrome is a part of the PDD continuum which includes Autism, Asperger’s is at the milder end and there are some important differences between the two. Children with Asperger’ssyndrome typically have better social functioning than do those with autism. In addition, children with Asperger’s syndrome generally have normal to near-normal intelligence and near-normal language development.

Asperger’s syndrome is frequently first diagnosed between the ages of 3 and 8 years but can actually be identified at almost any age once delays in social development can be identified. While there is no cure, early identification and treatment can be helpful in improving quality of life and functioning level. Some treatment interventions are Occupational Therapy, Physical Therapy, and Speech Therapy. Also, Social Skills training and Behavior Modification can assist in enhancing pro-social behaviors and reducing problem behaviors.

Asperger’s syndrome is usually first recognized by a pediatrician during a routine well-child checkup when looking at social developmental milestones. Not all pediatricians will be quick to make this diagnosis as it requires parents to report some of the developmental concerns that would flag a more thorough investigation. Most commonly, a pediatrician will refer the child for further assessment by a specialist to be assured of the diagnosis. A more complete assessment may be done by a specialist, such as a child and adolescent psychiatrist or psychologist, pediatric neurologist, developmental-behavioral pediatrician, or another health professional who is specially trained to diagnose and treat Asperger’s syndrome.

Good luck Mom.

Tom

Tom Petrizzo serves as CEO of Ozark Guidance and has degrees in social work and law. You can reach Ozark Guidance at 479-750-2020. Tom has spent the last 20 years managing non-profit centers in Texas, Kansas, Colorado and Arkansas. He has also served as adjunct faculty at the social work graduate program at three large universities. He’s married to Teri Classick, a licensed clinical social worker, and they have two daughters. When he’s not at work, Tom likes to jog, bike ride, read and he even belted out the National Anthem lately at a Northwest Arkansas Naturals Game!

Tom would be happy to answer your questions and read what’s on your mind. Click the butterfly icon below to fill out an anonymous submission form with your question or concern. The form contains NO identifying information and is designed to give local women an online place to share concerns with a person qualified to offer feedback. Tom will be back each month to answer another woman’s question.

Disclaimer: This RESPONSE does not provide medical advice It is intended for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Never ignore professional medical advice in seeking treatment because of something you have read on nwaMotherlode or Ozark Guidance websites.

Greatest Hits from nwaMotherlode.com

Happy Monday, mamas! We hope your week is off to a good start.

This week during our Mamas on Magic 107.9 segments, we’re talking about some of the articles that have received the most clicks, likes and comments over the past five years that this website has been a part of the Northwest Arkansas community.

Listen to Magic 107.9 at 7:45 a.m. to hear each day’s discussion, or click the links below to hear the radio segments online.

Monday, July 29, 2013 Greatest Hits Week

Click here to read Inside His Head posts

Tuesday, July 30, 2013 Greatest Hits week

Click here to read Andi’s Beauty Buzz posts

Wednesday, July 31, 2013 Greatest Hits week

Click here to read The Rockwood Files (The Silly Putty egg incident)

Click here to read The Rockwood Files (The “Naked Nuggets” incident)

Thursday, August 1, 2013 Greatest Hits week

Click here to read Life with Ladybug (Boudoir pictures)

Click here to read Life With Ladybug (Ladybug makes her case for a cell phone)

Friday, August 2, 2013 Greatest Hits week

Click on the links below to read a series of articles written by the Country Preacher Dad about “When Bad Things Happen”:

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Devotion in Motion: Showers of blessings

30 You send forth Your Spirit, they are created; And You renew the face of the earth. Psalm 104:30 (NKJV)

By Bro. John L. Cash, “Country Preacher Dad”

When we were newlyweds, Susan used to drive back to Arkansas to visit her mom for a week, and I would stay at home to preach at the country church. She would leave me a list of things that I was supposed to remember to do.

Most of the time, I would go about my regular business each day, until it got close to the end of the week. Then, just before she arrived back home, I would hurry and do all the things that she had left me to do.

That usually worked out fine. But one time her instructions included the words “Water my plants.” Clearly, this is something that I should have looked after day-by-day. By the time I got around to thinking about her ferns and potted plants they had been sitting close to 5 days in the oppressive heat of Mississippi summer, without a drop of water to drink. They looked so burnt, wilted and sad that I was sure that I had killed them all.

Something that I had noticed, though, is that women often put their potted plants out in the yard when the weatherman predicts rain showers. So I decided to try this. I wasn’t hopeful, but it was worth a shot.

raining gif2Later on that morning, the Lord sent us a slow, cool, soaking summer shower. And when I returned to the plants that evening, I was astonished. The potted plants that had been on intensive-care-life-support that morning had returned to life! No longer were they brown, drooping and dry. Instead they were standing tall, robust and green. The rain had brought about a miraculous transformation.

Since then, I’ve always believed that God can water plants better than people can. The experts would probably point out some scientific reason why a rain shower works better than a watering can. But I’m not buying into that. In my book, rain just works better than a water hose because the Creator of the universe sends the rain to water His earth.

Something else I believe is that when we are spiritually parched, God can restore our souls just as His rain restores the earth. When I’m physically, mentally, and spiritually worn out, I try to use every resource that is available to me to strengthen myself.

The Lord has given us so many ways in this life that we can help ourselves, and we shouldn’t neglect those. But after I’ve done all I can do, I ask God to send His help from above, and He always does. Many times I’ve become weary in the work of the Lord, but He always helps me to get rested up again.

When I was a little boy, at our church we used to sing a hymn about “Showers of Blessings.” I liked the song back then, but I think I love it even more now. I’ve lived long enough to have revived by the rain that the Lord sends to His children—if we’ll only take the time to ask Him for it.

john and susan cashDr. John L. Cash is the “Country Preacher Dad.” He was raised in Stuttgart, Arkansas, and has spent the last 26 years being a country preacher in the piney woods five miles south of the little town of Hickory, Mississippi. (On week days he has a desk-job at a public school and teaches Latin on closed-circuit-television.) He and his lovely wife, Susan, and his sons, Spencer (age 20) and Seth (age 17) live in the parsonage next door to the Antioch Christian Church (where the church-cats, “Sister” and “Miss Louvenia” tend to stay in trouble for nibbling on the indoor house plants.) He would love to hear from you in an email sent to countrypreacherdad@gaggle.net.

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Note from the mamas: The Summer Remix symbol appears on posts previously published on nwaMotherlode that were noted as a “reader favorite”. If you missed the original publication date, we hope you’ll enjoy this encore performance. Happy summer! – See more at: http://nwamotherlode.com/nwacontent/devotion-in-motion#sthash.4eJ8pspK.dpuf

The Rockwood Files: No time for whine

rockwoodfiles2-205x300By Gwen Rockwood, newspaper columnist and mama of 3

One of my main goals as a parent is to raise non-whiners. It’s not easy. We’re all inclined to whine when things don’t go our way. Babies do it. Toddlers do it. Reality TV stars do it. And increasingly, older kids and grown-ups who really ought to know better do it, too.

But it’s obnoxious. And when it’s combined with pouting or feet stomping, it’s downright ugly. Tom and I are pretty strict about it around here, but it’s certainly an ongoing battle.

There are some parenting books that tell you to ignore all forms of whining. Act like it’s not even happening, they say. The thinking here is that, if you ignore it and don’t reward the child’s whining with attention (positive or negative), they’ll eventually stop it.

That approach might work fine and dandy, but I don’t know any parent who could stay sane long enough to truly test it out. At some point, the whining is going to make your head explode. When the paramedics wheel you into the emergency room and the doctors look down at your headless body, they’ll say, “What on Earth happened to her?”

Then the paramedics will shrug their shoulders and say, “Looks like she tried to outlast her kid’s whining. Didn’t go her way.”

Now that my kids are getting older, I’m trying different methods to show them just how lame whining really is. Sometimes I do my best impersonation of “Wendy Whiner” in the most nasal, annoying tone of voice I can muster. I repeat back their words so they can hear how childish it sounds. My theory is that sometimes the whiner is deaf to his or her own sounds and therefore can’t hear what everyone else does.

whining no symbolMy Wendy Whiner act is so over-the-top that the kids think it’s funny and start laughing. And it’s nearly impossible to whine when you’re laughing, so my mission is accomplished.

Sometimes I counteract whining by showing that it never works the way they want it to. Whining is like a gremlin. If you feed it with victory, it’ll multiply exponentially overnight and take over the world.

Yesterday, a brief whining incident reminded me that, while it may be important to let kids “feel their feelings” and “express themselves,” it’s also just as important to teach them to manage those feelings without making everyone around them miserable.

Case in point. The kids and I were at the pool and the boys had invented a water game and were in the middle of playing it when their little sister insisted on joining in. But they wanted to finish the game they’d started. So I negotiated a fair compromise by telling her to wait until they finished this round of the game and then she could get in on the next round.

But she wanted things her way that instant. She whined her disapproval, sat on the pool’s edge, crossed her little arms and commenced pouting. I told her to stop, but there was no immediate change. So then I told her what her whining was about to trigger.

“If you pout and whine, we’re going home and you won’t get to swim at all,” I said.

And because she knew I meant it, she immediately stood up, uncrossed her arms, plastered a smile on her face and jumped happily into the pool. The pouting was officially over. As she swam, she grinned up at me and said, “Why didn’t you just lead with that, Mom?”

Instantly, she’d flipped the switch on those pouty feelings and swam into smoother waters. And it reminded me that, for kids and grown-ups alike, sometimes a bad mood is just a decision we’ve made – one that, with the right motivation, can be changed just as quickly.

gwen rockwoodGwen Rockwood is a mom to three great kids, wife to one cool guy, a newspaper columnist and co-owner of nwaMotherlode.com. To read previously published installments of The Rockwood Files, click here. To check out Gwen’s new book, “Reporting Live from the Laundry Pile: The Rockwood Files Collection,” click HERE.

Author Photo credit: Lisa Mac Photography

 

Gwen Rockwood is a mom to three great kids, wife to one cool guy, a newspaper columnist and co-owner of nwaMotherlode.com. To read previously published installments of The Rockwood Files, click here. To check out Gwen’s new book, “Reporting Live from the Laundry Pile: The Rockwood Files Collection,” click HERE.

Author Photo credit: Lisa Mac Photography

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Healthy Mama: When new moms have the blues

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By Dr. Matthew Steed, Mercy physician and father of two

Little girls often play with baby dolls and dream of the day when they’ll have a baby of their own, so why after years of waiting are new moms suddenly sad once their new bundle of joy has arrived?

Our first child (Glyn) was the perfect baby. Feedings were effortless, sleep schedule a breeze…a perfect baby that traveled well and slept through anything. As delivery of our second child neared, Kim confidently planned to take 10 hours of grad-school courses, work full time, raise a two year old and put up with me. Every newborn is different and after 27 diarrhea stools in 24 hours, two breasts that were convinced they were on FMLA, and two unhappy babies, the “baby blues” had arrived.

Here’s a photo of our family shortly after the birth of our daughter, Araceli, in 2011. See that dark Oreo dust on our 2-year-old son’s mouth? We had to give him a cookie before he agreed to have his picture made with his new baby sister. :-)

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Postpartum blues or “baby blues,” postpartum depression, postpartum psychosis and postpartum exacerbation of bipolar disorder are all included in the spectrum of postpartum mood disorders. Patients are often reluctant to discuss their symptoms and feel ashamed and alone. Suffering from excessive agitation, hopelessness, decreased interest and energy can become unbearable. They are upset that one of life’s high points is so un-enjoyable and feel helpless to change it. These disorders are very common, have many treatment options and when appropriately managed marriages, babies and new moms can be saved.

Postpartum blues are typically brief, lasting around a week, and resolve without treatment. It affects about 50-70% of new moms. Soon after delivery, a mother will realize she brought home more than a newborn. She might be crying and excessively angry over mundane things and then suddenly calm, cool and ready for newborn pictures only seconds later. She is happy to finally have her baby, but cries constantly when alone. She needs “a good night’s sleep” but wants to breast feed every two hours and be up to “watch the baby” all night. No matter how hard she tries, getting enough done is impossible and she feels lost, isolated and alone.

Postpartum depression has a gradual onset in the first 3 months after delivery and affects approximately 12-16% of new mothers. Symptoms are present most of the day, last more than two weeks, are similar to postpartum blues but are more severe.

Many women have thoughts of death and dying, physical discomfort, overwhelming guilt, decreased appetite and concentration. Many are unable to care for themselves or their newborn. The shame and fear of having their infants taken from them causes more isolation and worsening depression.

baby-bluesScreening early and often during prenatal and postpartum care, identifying those at risk and a good support group are critical for successful treatment. One quarter of women with a history of depression, 50% of those with history of postpartum depression and 68% of women that suddenly stop antidepressants after becoming pregnant will have a reoccurrence during or after pregnancy. Early family support, group discussion, frequent follow-up, medication and sometimes psychiatric consultation are all used to help a new mother through these troubled times.

So why do postpartum mood disorders happen? There’s not a simple answer. In our situation, we made the mistake of over planning and not allowing enough time for our two children and each other. Kim’s baby blues resolved without treatment, but many are not so lucky. If your spouse, family member or prenatal care provider has not clued in to your condition, please reach out again. Don’t be embarrassed to ask and never put off getting the help you and your baby deserve.

As always, healthy babies and happy moms make the world go around.

Dr. Steed’s number one passion is to care for the pregnancy and birthing needs of women. You may call him at the Mercy clinic at 479-338-5555 to begin your prenatal care and let him help you enjoy your pregnancy journey. His office is located in the Mercy Physician’s Plaza just off Interstate 540 in Rogers.

NWAMotherlode.com does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. This content is for informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for professional medical advice. Always talk to your doctor if you have questions about a medical condition. Don’t delay getting professional medical advice because of something you read online. This website doesn’t necessarily recommend or endorse any specific tests, doctors, products, procedures or opinions discussed on the site.

5 Minutes with a Mom: Sarah Jewell

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Name: Sarah Jewell

Son’s name and age? Luke is 11 and Jackson is 16 months

How long have you lived in NWA and what brought you here? I was born in Springdale in 1980, but was raised in Farmington. My dad grew up in Fayetteville, and met my mother, who is from Southwest Missouri, while she was attending the U of A.

How did you meet your husband? We formally met while working part-time at Lindsey and Associates in Fayetteville. I was told I would be working with another U of A student closely, and that working relationship turned into a personal relationship months later!

When we were introduced, he was standing on a ladder fixing a light bulb in the break room at Lindsey & Associates. I immediately remembered him from Finite Math a semester before as the guy who always sat behind me helping other students in the class with their homework. As he was greeting me from the ladder, I had an immediate feeling that this guy was special, but I had no clue how special he would become to me!

Tell us about your work: I am the Library Media Specialist at Holt Middle School in the Fayetteville Public School District. This will be my 3rd year at HMS, but my 10th year in education. I have a job that allows me to work with both students and teachers. Since I am a teacher-librarian, I collaborate with teachers to teach information literacy lessons, but also advise students on a variety of books to read. I also work hard to promote literacy and encourage students to read every chance I get!

What are some of your favorite places to hang out with your family in NWA? Since we have 2 active boys, our hang out spots are mostly outdoors! We are really enjoying the new Rogers Aquatic Park this summer! We purchased discount punch cards and we go at least once a week. My 11 year old, Luke will spend hours on the rides and Jackson, my 16 month old is happy with the huge splash pad, toddler pool area, and likes the lazy river (thank goodness)!

We also enjoy the all the Razorback sporting events, especially tailgating during football and Hog Baseball. We also love the NWA Naturals since it provides a great family friendly atmosphere and everyone always has a great time! The Tontitown city park is a great place to go on the not so humid days. It is always very clean, and they have added some new play areas that both boys enjoy. We also go out on Beaver Lake on our pontoon during the summer. Horseshoe Bend has a great camping and public swimming area. We pack up with drinks and snacks, and make a day out of it!

What do you enjoy doing when you have a little extra time? If I happen to come across 2-3 hours of “me” time, you can bet I will be getting a pedicure, especially in the spring and summer! I also would make a quick trip to the Fayetteville Public Library and just browse! It’s such a wonderful place to go.. Not only because it’s beautiful and has a coffee shop, but also because they have the friendliest staff, waiting to help you! I would also take the opportunity to go to a few fun boutiques around NWA… Whimsy Whoo in Springdale or Something Urban or Riffraff in Fayetteville! There would also be a Sonic stop in there somewhere… My guilty pleasure is a Vanilla Diet Coke.

What’s playing on your iPod right now? I like all kinds of music, but listen to country music the most. I usually listen to Pandora, and a few of my favorite stations are Jason Aldean radio, Carrie Underwood radio, Bruno Mars radio, and Justin Timberlake radio. I also listen to gospel radio as well, especially the old-school hymns that I grew up singing in church.

What’s been the most unexpected thing about motherhood for you? One aspect of motherhood, or just parenting in general that I didn’t expect is how hard it is to find a balance between motherhood and me! Yes, I am a mother, but when it is all said and done, it will not 100% define me as a human being. Knowing and perusing my personal interests and aspirations (not to mention social time with friends) is hard since we have an older child with lots of after school commitments, and a toddler who needs his mommy a lot! This is something with which I will struggle, but hopefully get better at as the years go by.

What’s something your friends might not know about you? I hate jeans! I think they look great, but can’t stand to wear them.

If you could vacation anywhere in the world this summer where would it be? It would for sure have to be a tropical paradise! I’d rather have outdoor adventures than go sight seeing in countries such as Italy or France! Somewhere like Bonaire or the U.S. Virgin Islands would be wonderful!

What’s something you have always wanted to learn? I have always wanted to learn sign language. To be able to communicate purely by hand movements and body language is fascinating to me!

What are three things you always have with you?
1. Cell Phone
2. Wallet
3. Bottle water

What would your ideal day look like? First off, my ideal day would definitely be a summer day with my family! We would wake up and go to the Fayetteville Farmers Market, and have brunch at Briar Rose Bakery in Farmington (love their Egg Salad Sandwiches). In the afternoon after nap time, it would be fun to go to the Gentry Safari, and of course get some Shave the Planet afterwards! That evening, we would get a much needed babysitter and Brian and I would get some adult time! After a nice dinner, we would see a show at the Walton Arts Center on Dickson St., and then afterwards meet friends out for drinks! For it to be “ideal”, I’d need to be in bed by midnight since Jackson is up at 6:30 am every morning!

One word to sum me up … Loyal. I had to ask the one person who knows me the best…. My wonderful mother, who happens to be very loyal herself.

*Photo Credit: Three Bees Photography

Doc Talk: Factors that increase risk of breast cancer

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It’s time for another virtual trip to the doctor’s office. Most of us know that we should be doing breast self-exams regularly. But do you know when girls should start doing self breast exams? And do you know the specific factors that put you at higher risk for developing breast cancer during your lifetime?

Click the video “play” button below to see Shawnna Grigsby, RN, answer these questions and more. And find out more about the free class Mercy offers for women that teaches the correct method for performing a breast self-exam. This is a great class for mothers to attend with their older teenage daughters.

To schedule a breast exam, call the Mercy Mammography Center at 479-986-6160 on Highway 102 in Rogers.

Doc Talk is a bi-monthly feature made possible by the doctors and nurses of Mercy Health, who are generous with their time and provide video answers to questions submitted by local mothers.

NWAMotherlode.com does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. This content is for informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for professional medical advice. Always talk to your doctor if you have questions about a medical condition. Don’t delay getting professional medical advice because of something you read online. This website doesn’t necessarily recommend or endorse any specific tests, doctors, products, procedures or opinions discussed on the site.

Beauty Buzz: Yummy foods for glowing skin

By Andi Douglas, nwaMotherlode.com beauty editor

remix (4)Recently, I discovered a list of yummy foods that will help me get glowing skin while stuffing my face.

The experts at www.lifescript.com published a list of 10 complexion-boosting foods that actually sound good. I was expecting suggestions like water (duh) and spoonfuls of olive oil and instead found a list of do-able goodies and useful recipes.

Face Food #1: Avocados
Even though I will not be indulging in this creamy fruit (I claim to be allergic), it is full of essential oils and B-complex vitamins that nourish your skin, inside and out.

“Niacin (vitamin B3) is especially important for healthy skin, and avocados contain lots of it. Niacin, an anti-inflammatory, soothes irritated skin and red, blotchy skin. One avocado has 3.8 mg niacin – 27% of your daily need,” according to LifeScript contributor Jennifer Gruenemay.

In addition to your tried and true avocado recipes try blending half an avocado with yogurt and frozen berries to make a creamy, nutty-flavored morning smoothie.

bagFace Food #2: Mangoes
Another great smoothie ingredient, mangoes have more than 80% of your daily requirements for vitamin A, which maintains and repairs skin cells. Also, as an antioxidant, vitamin A fights free radical damage that can prematurely age the skin.

Face Food #3: Almonds
I keep a baggie of almonds in the car, for when hunger strikes, to keep myself from pilfering the kids fruit snacks, but I had no idea they provided 150% of my daily need for vitamin E. Vitamin E’s rich oils moisturize dry skin, and its antioxidants protect against skin damage and premature aging.

Face Food #4: Cottage Cheese
This is one food I have avoided in the past, due to an aversion to funky textures, but I am determined to give it another try. The selenium in cottage cheese teams up with vitamin E as a powerful free radical-fighting antioxidant duo. Plus, it’ll protect against skin cancer (WOW!) and fight dandruff, a major cold weather problem for me.

Face Food #5: Acerola Cherries
Since cold weather is death to this delicious fruit, you may have to save this tip for warmer temps or stick to a dried version, but it will be worth the wait. One of these cherries supplies 100% of your daily allowance for vitamin C, which is a boost for your skin and health.

Let me know if you find any Acerola, also known as Barbados or Cereza cherries, because I am dying to try out this recipe from Lifescript: Chocolate-Cherry Cupcakes

Face Food #6: Oysters
You either love ‘em or hate ‘em, but regardless of how you feel, your skin will thank you for the zinc filled delicacy. They fight pimples because they’re rich in zinc. The zinc fights pimples (no more adult acne, please) and boosts elastin with the help of vitamin C.

Face Food #7: Baked Potatoes
Need more elastin? Eat one baked potato (with the skin) to get 75% of your daily copper need, which works with vitamin C and zinc to give you tighter skin.

mushroomFace Food #8: Mushrooms
There are a hundred ways to add this fungus to your daily menu. It’s rich in Riboflavin (vitamin B2) helps in tissue maintenance and repair, and especially beneficial if you suffer from rosacea.

Face Food #9: Flaxseed Oil
I know a lot of mom’s who use this additive to enhance their kids PB&J, but I don’t think many have thought of the benefits to themselves. It’s the omega 3s that benefit your skin, and flaxseed oil is one of the best sources of this essential fatty acid. Just one teaspoon per day will hydrate your skin and help unclog pores that lead to unwanted blemishes.

Face Food #10: Wheat Germ
Another sneaky mom trick that we should be using on ourselves: wheat germ is a good source of biotin, a B vitamin that’s crucial to skin health. Without enough biotin you will fall victim to itchy, dry skin.

Sprinkle wheat germ on yogurt for a tasty way to get more biotin in your diet.

Or try these Apricot-Wheat Germ Muffins.

AndiHave a question for Andi, beauty blogger and fellow mama? Andi welcomes your questions and feedback to Beauty Buzz. E-mail her at mamas@nwaMotherlode.com.

Mamas on Magic 107.9: Book week!

In our humble opinion, there’s not much that’s better than an awesome book, a quiet spot and time to get lost in another world for a little while. So this week we’re devoting our Mamas on Magic 107.9 radio segments to all things books.

We’ll talk about our favorites, old and new, as well as non-fiction selections, parenting books, classics and a spirited debate over whether or not it’s better to read on an e-reader (like a Kindle, Nook or iPad) or to stick with the old-school method of turning real pages.

Listen to Magic 107.9 at 7:45 a.m. every morning this week to hear the segments. If you miss one, click the links below to catch up. Have a great week, and go read a book.

Monday, July 22, 2013 Books we love

Tuesday, July 23, 2013 Book week

Wednesday, July 24, 2013 Book week

Thursday, July 25, 2013 Book week

 Friday, July 26, 2013 Book week

 

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