Archive by May, 2009


31
May
2009

perfume150.jpg“Then Mary took a pound of very costly oil of spikenard, anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped His feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil. ” John 12:3

By Bro. John L. Cash, “Country Preacher Dad”

When you are born with no sense of smell, as I was, you need help. People who are blind in their eyes need a “seeing-eye dog”. People who are blind in their noses need a “smelling-nose friend”. I have always been blessed with people to help me in situations where smelling is necessary. Most of the time I enlist the help of my family members because they’re usually handy and also because they’re obligated to me because we’re related.

Just yesterday I made my sons sniff an empty litter box that I had just cleaned to see if it needed any more cleaning. I got Spencer’s girlfriend, Bethany, to sniff it, too, for good measure. (Just in case this thing gets serious, she needs to know what sort of family she is marrying into. I’m sure she’s praying that the insanity gene skips a generation.)  Everybody said the freshly-cleaned litter box smelled fine. It’s good to have family when you’re blind in your nose.

But, what’s a person to do when they’re away from home without a sense of smell?  Then, you have to enlist the help of a friend. And let me tell you, a friend who will sniff for you is a friend indeed.tranthams.jpg

The best “smelling-nose friend” I’ve ever had was one of my college roommates, Ray Trantham, pictured here with his wife Pam. (He is Dr. Raymond S. Trantham now and is a missionary and seminary professor in Odessa, Ukraine.) He was the best because, first of all, he had the most incredibly sensitive sniffer this world has ever known, and also because he would gladly sniff anything I asked him to sniff. (Remember, he’s a brave and rugged missionary.)

Back in our Bible college days, he sniffed leftover vegetables to see if they were tainted and new brands of bath soap to see if they smelled sissy. He smelled shirts that were worn for thirty minutes and then hung back on a hanger and laundry that had been left too long in the hamper. Once his sniffed under my armpits when I ran in after a busy day at work and was on my way out the door to talk to a pretty girl. His verdict? “Well, you smell just a tiny, tiny bit, but I have to get really, really close, and she’s not going to have her head up under your armpit—I hope!”

From my friend Ray, I learned a great deal about the nature of smells and aromas. Brother Ray always drank instant breakfast powder mixed in two-percent milk for breakfast instead of eating in the Bible college cafeteria. When I asked him why he never ate school breakfast, he said, “If you go in there, you smell like the kitchen for the rest of the day.” I was always amazed that when I came back from breakfast he could always tell what the menu of the day was by taking one sniff when I walked back in our dorm room.  He would inhale once and then make a pronouncement:  “Oatmeal” or “Sausage gravy”; “Bacon and Eggs” or “French toast”. Just one sniff, and he always got it right.

Now, here’s the thing that amazed me the most. He could always tell what girl had walked through the student lounge based on the aroma of perfume the young lady left behind. There was one girl at our college who always wore a perfume called Cinnabar. (I can’t imagine, but it sounds like it would smell like “Big Red” chewing gum.) When Ray and I would head to New Testament Theology class at eight in the morning, he would comment that this young lady had already gone to class because he could smell her perfume.

[A side story here: Because he liked the way the other girl smelled, Ray bought a bottle of Cinnabar for the girl he was dating, Pam Hassell, who is now his wife. She said something like, “I-think-I-can-pick-out-my-own-perfume-thank-you.” She and her missionary friends of all denominations read this column in Ukraine now. It’s quite popular there. True story.]

All foolishness aside, here’s what I learned from Ray Trantham. Fragrances travel all through the house. We see that illustrated in today’s gospel lesson (at the top of the page).  Mary Magdalene had bought a jar of expensive perfume, probably worth about $800 dollars. She broke the jar open and poured the entire contents on our Lord Jesus—because nothing is too beautiful for God. St. John then makes a wonderful observation in the story: “And the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil.” Simply put, we learn here some important spiritual lessons. You can’t pour perfume on someone else without getting some on yourself. And whenever we do any deed that brings glory to our Saviour Jesus, the fragrance goes all through the house.

So, don’t forget. You can’t bless others without blessing yourself. And you can’t honor the Lord without making the world more beautiful for everyone. Dear mama, live this week to spread spiritual perfume on the Lord and on all those you come in contact with, especially your little ones. Your life (and theirs) will be sweeter for it.

Dr. John L. Cash is the “Country Preacher Dad” *Sing that  title to the tune of “Secret Agent Man” He was raised in Stuttgart, Arkansas, and is beginning his third decade of being a country preacher in the piney woods five miles south of the little town of Hickory, Mississippi.  He and his lovely wife, Susan, and his sons, Spencer (age 18) and Seth (age 14) live in the parsonage next door to the Antioch Christian Church” (where the Preacher is usually in charge of  dumping the litter box because his handicap is handy). You should write him at extramailbox@juno.com.


30
May
2009

By Gwen Rockwood, newspaper columnist and mama of 3

At some point, we all have to accept that there are some things we don’t do well. New mothers typically try to be Supermom for a while. I did. But then we realize it’s impossible, hang up our capes, and settle for doing a good job at the things that matter most. We focus our efforts in the areas where we have the most skill.

But, sometimes, one of the deficits rears its ugly head. Yesterday, I emptied my 7-year-old’s backpack and scanned through the school papers inside. One of them was a reminder about the school’s Fairy Tale Ball at the end of the week. “Don’t forget your costume,” the note read.

“Costume?” I said, aloud. “Adam, do you need a costume for Friday?”

“Yeah. I’m going to be the Big Bad Wolf,” he replied, in a confident tone that indicated he was certain his mother had not forgotten all about the Fairy Tale Ball and his need to dress up like a fairy tale character.

wolfmask.jpg“Okay,” I said, my mind racing around town wondering where I might find a Big Bad Wolf costume when Halloween was still five months away.

“Are you sure you don’t want to be Jack from ‘Jack and the Beanstalk,’” I asked, knowing that costume would be more open to interpretation and easier to pull off in three days time.

“No, Mom. I’m going to be the Big Bad Wolf because he huffs and he puffs, remember?” he asked, exasperated that I wouldn’t realize how much cooler a wolf is than a mere beanstalk-climbing boy.

“Oh, I see,” I said.

What my son doesn’t know is that his mother is useless when it comes to costumes. I don’t sew. I don’t even own a hot glue gun, mostly because I’m certain it would end with me going to the ER to have my fingers surgically separated from one another. And despite sewing lessons my mother forced me to take as a teenager, I never quite got the hang of it.

Mom convinced Ms. Lucille, who went to our church, into giving me lessons once a week at her house, hoping I’d turn into the seamstress she never was. She said she had always regretted not learning to sew and she didn’t want me to end up feeling the same way one day.

So I went to the lessons, but it just wasn’t my thing. After several weeks bent over a sewing machine at Ms. Lucille’s kitchen table, all I had to show for it was a bath towel with a patch of Velcro sloppily sewn onto it – a bath wrap, we called it. I also had a red jumper with navy blue buttons, but the truth was that Ms. Lucille ended up doing 98 percent of the work and let me take credit for it. I think it was just too frustrating for her to watch me fumble around at something that came so naturally to her.

This week I’m wishing I’d paid more attention to those sewing lessons. If I had just been a better student at Ms. Lucille’s house, I wouldn’t be in this dilemma right now. I’d just pop over to a fabric store, collect the necessary supplies, and I’d whip out an original Big Bad Wolf costume in no time. But I can’t do it. Wouldn’t even know where to begin. So I did what I know how to do – I “googled” it.

I typed the words “Big Bad Wolf costume” into the search engine and prayed the results would go my way. The Internet can be a wonderful thing sometimes. I found a great wolf outfit from a company in West Virginia. Within minutes, I was on the phone with them, but they couldn’t get it here before the Fairy Tale Ball. Back to the computer keyboard I went. There was one more affordable Big Bad Wolf mask. I ordered it as fast as my fingers could type. But there was no guarantee it would make it on time. Sure, I could have ordered the expedited shipping but that would have cost more than twice what the mask itself cost, which would have made my husband do his own version of huffing and puffing once he saw the bill.

So I wrote an e-mail to the manufacturer and asked – pleaded – that they ship the Big Bad Wolf costume to me as quickly as humanly possible. I signed it “The Big Bad Mama who Forgot the Fairy Tale Ball.” The shipping manager saw my note, was amused, took pity on me, and the mask is on its way even as I type.

So I’m no June Cleaver. I hardly cook. I don’t sew. But give me a computer and a deadline, and I’ll deliver every time. One of these days, when my kids need someone to edit their essays for college applications, they’re going to be really glad their mother was a geeky English major.

Want to read previous installments of The Rockwood Files? Click HERE!


30
May
2009

big-spring-clean-logo1.jpgWOW! Thanks so much to everyone who told us what they love about coming home to a clean, organized space. The desire to have a little help getting there is definitely something we can all relate to. We’re so happy to offer giveaways on this website that help Northwest Arkansas moms solve a problem. And for some, this is a problem that’s downright monumental.

Of course, we hate that all of you couldn’t win these great prizes. Hopefully it helped to vent a little and know you’re in good company, though!

The winners of the Big Spring Clean Home Makeover are:

  • Katherine Vandiver — Zecena Cleaning Service, deep cleaning (479-616-0541)
  • Brenda Ward – Modoa Interiors, professional design service (479-530-7357)
  • Murray Atchison — Simply Organized, professional organizing service (479-790-6146)

Katherine summed up a thread that ran through most of the comments in this giveaway: “I feel less stressed and more at peace with a clean home — like I can move on to what is really important.”

Murray’s note also struck a common chord: “When my house is clean and organized, I feel like my life is clean, calm and organized. Also, I’m much easier with my kids (at least until they mess it up again!).

Brenda reminded us that sometimes life feels like the movie Groundhog Day when you have kids. She said, “I have two girls (ages 4 and 1) and I feel that all I do ALL DAY LONG is pick up toys, books, clothes, etc
 and stuff in a toy box, book shelf or closet. I would love to have an organized place to put everything at the end of the day (or even in the middle of the day). I would also love to have my furniture rearranged - my husband doesn’t like my ideas. My whole family would be surprised and enjoy it for a long time.”

Congratulations to all three winners!


29
May
2009

movingtruck.gifYou heard it here first! We just got a little inside scoop about one of our favorite shopping spots. Signed Sealed Delivered is moving and expanding! Currently located on 52nd Street in Rogers, the store will soon be moving into a new space in the Shoppes at Pinnacle Hills, right across the street from the Embassy Suites (near the Cold Stone Creamery area).

We hear that the move will be complete sometime in early August but the store will remain open in its current location until the new space is ready. We’ll be sure to keep you updated on any moving sales, etc.

crown.jpgDid you know that Signed Sealed Delivered is offering a $100 shopping spree to the winner of our Crafty Mama Queen contest? There is still time to enter the contest, if you’re interested, so click HERE if you’d like to get the details about how to enter.

FYI: It’s Friday which means Signed Sealed Delivered is having a Happy Hour sale with special deals available only during noon until 1 p.m. and 5:30 until 6:30 p.m. Today, one of the sale items is photo frames for 50 percent off!Â