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Question from reader:
My husband of 10 yrs has gotten progressively more and more verbally angry at me. Yesterday he pushed me twice during an argument. I have begged him to talk and get counseling, but he refuses. I am name-called (liar, manipulator, selfish). We have two very young twin toddlers. I am at a complete loss…..He has made me feel guilty and ashamed of my behavior. I am blamed for all arguments. Yesterday he told me that after 10 yrs, he can’t stand me……I’ve reached a new low where I beg forgiveness and beg for him to talk to me. Please help.
Reply from Lauren
What jumps out for me in your plea is that he won’t go with you or on his own for help. What I know for certain is that we cannot change other people — even our husbands. But you CAN do the work to help yourself.
I want to encourage you to reach out for counseling to gain some more perspective, gain some strength and support for putting a plan together for yourself.
I’m not sure what your financial/insurance situation is, so I want to offer a range of options. If you have insurance, go to the Psychology Today website and do a search for a therapist and choose one who appeals to you.
If you don’t have insurance, you could consider both Ozark Guidance (479-750-2020) or Dayspring (479-631-9996) since they both offer a sliding fee scale for uninsured and/or underemployed.
Good luck to you and let me know if I can help.
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